Communication
Knowing what to say
- Identify your desired outcomes.
- Do you want to persuade people?
- Are you introducing a new idea?
- What do you need to consider the presentation a success?
- Determine the words to illustrate how do you wanna come across?
Communication with Emotional Intelligence
- Avoid why questions or leading questions
Why would you suggest that? Thanks for sharing your idea!
So, you’re fine with our sales plummeting? Can you share more about the possible effect on sales?
- Never trivialize
That happens to everyone. I’m sure that was frustrating.
- Avoid absolute, definite statements
No, it’s like this. Here is another way to look at it.
- Avoid blame and assume positive intent.
- Start sentences with I or We instead of You.
You were late. I needed this report yesterday.
You’re wrong. I see things differently.
You aren’t realistic. We need to stay in budget.
Influencing Others
Build Rapport
- Listen.
- Get to know your counterpart. I also makes sense to get to know about their personal life.
- Find out their goals.
- What would be the best use of your time in our conversation today?
- If this meeting went well, what would be the best outcome for you?
- State your positive intent early.
- We have some challenging issues to discuss today, and I want to be clear about the positive purpose I have in mind.
- Give explicit credit to them for positive intent.
- I think I’m understanding the positive intent you have in bringing this up. [Ask clarification questions]. Is that right?
Be Likable
Some people cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.
Don’t fake it. Find the right version for yourself.
- Have the right mindset.
- before the meeting
- I’m happy to be here
- I’m happy to see you
- behave that way
- demonstrate your positive attitude
- smile more than frow
- encourage more than critisize
- Seek and highlight similarities.
- Give credit to relevant qualities.
- I’ve heard that you are open-minded person who weighs all the facts
Being Influenceable
Being humble is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of youself less.
- Don’t win arguments.
- Acknowledge others’ positive effect on you / project.
- Thank you, I hadn’t looked on it before
- I appreciate you challenging me on it
- Share your improvement efforts.